Unsurmountable Obstacles: Why You Can’t “Get Over It”

We’ve all experienced it at one time or another – that feeling of being unable to “get over” a certain situation or event. Whether it’s a heartbreak, a traumatic experience, or a disappointment, there are times when we just can’t seem to move on and let go.

So why is it so difficult to “get over it”? There are several factors that can contribute to this challenge.

First, it’s important to understand that humans are inherently emotional beings. Our emotions play a significant role in how we perceive and experience the world around us. When we are faced with a distressing situation, our emotions can become deeply entrenched, making it difficult to simply shake off the feelings associated with the event.

Additionally, the significance of the event also plays a role in our ability to move on. If the event was particularly traumatic or meaningful, it can be extremely difficult to simply “get over it.” Our brains are wired to remember and hold on to emotional experiences, especially those that are intense or impactful.

Another reason why it’s difficult to “get over it” is that we may not have the necessary coping skills or support systems in place to help us process and move on from the event. Without the proper tools and resources, it can be incredibly challenging to navigate the complex emotions and thoughts associated with the situation.

It’s also worth noting that societal and cultural influences can also impact our ability to “get over it.” We may feel pressure to quickly move on from a situation, especially if it’s something that is deemed insignificant by those around us. This can create additional stress and anxiety, further complicating the process of healing and letting go.

So, what can be done to help us “get over it”? First and foremost, it’s important to give ourselves permission to feel the emotions associated with the event. It’s okay to be sad, angry, or hurt. Allowing ourselves to fully experience and process these emotions is a crucial step in the healing process.

Seeking support from friends, family, or even a professional therapist can also be incredibly beneficial. Having a safe space to talk about our feelings and experiences can help us gain perspective and develop coping strategies for moving forward.

Practicing self-care and engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment can also help us in the process of “getting over it.” By focusing on our well-being and finding moments of happiness, we can slowly begin to shift our mindset and move past the event.

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that there is no timeline for healing and letting go. It’s okay to take as much time as we need to process and “get over” a certain event. By showing ourselves compassion and patience, we can gradually begin to move forward and find peace.